Preparing for Wordless Weeks

I’ve written this post in my head several times during the past week, but now that I’m typing away I can’t seem to reclaim those words that eloquently formed within my mind. Nevertheless, I’m planning a couple of “Wordless Weeks” to save my words and creativity for my websites and business. I’ve been inspired by various influences, from the stories I learn about each of my co-workers or regular customers to the festive fall foliage. Because I plan to participate in NaNoWriMo, I also want to save some of my story-writing for November. I have a little more than three weeks to brainstorm and plan what story cannot wait past November. I have several ideas, but only one can take center-stage next month. I have never been good at following through on my stories, but this year I’m going to write a story from start to finish. So for the next 20 days, I invite you to walk through my backyard, admiring the fall foliage as it is today — or rather yesterday, as this was scheduled yesterday.

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[Monday Meditations] Focusing While Distracted

The birds are chirping. The kids are screaming. The dog paws at your leg to go outside. The phone rings. Someone stops by your desk to ask a question — or discuss last night’s episode of cop drama. Distractions are everywhere, and they specialize in derailing your focus. We’re expected to multitask throughout our lives, but somehow that just doesn’t seem to work. For example, at this very moment two of my three children are protesting nap time — one a little more loudly than the other. I only have so much time on my days off to write several posts, and I can find myself staring blankly at the screen, desperately trying to remind that brilliant line I created in my head. However, time continues to pass, and tasks must be accomplished. So how then are we expected to focus and produce quality results? What do we do to discipline ourselves during distracting moments?

First of all, move on to another task. I read this everywhere I go, but Cordelia’s the freshest in my mind. I may be loathe to do so, but sometimes folding the laundry helps relieve the irritation of distraction-induced writer’s block. Sure, I get irritated that I’m folding laundry, but at least I’m not dwelling on my lack of creative thoughts. If you’ve folded the laundry, washed the dishes, scrubbed the toilet, weeded the garden, washed the car, and scraped the gutters already, go do something else! If you’re at work, I’ve got nothing — as a co-worker of mine says, “if you’ve got time to lean, you’ve got time to clean.” I don’t know what your respective day jobs entail, so I trust you’ll figure out what to do.

Personally, I just spun a distracting situation into an essay. I chose to let my distractions become my focus in order to channel some creativity. It just takes some reframing of your perspective.

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[Trust 30] Ordinary Things

Ordinary Things by Ana Guardia

“Every artist was first an amateur.”

To be an artist one has to find beauty in ordinary things. Find 10 things of great beauty in the landscape that surrounds you. For example, crumple sheets on your bed in the morning, the smell of coffee making its way around a busy office.

1. Golden rod blowing through the crisp autumn breeze.
2. Leaves changing color as the days become shorter and the weather becomes cooler.
3. My children playing happily outside.
4. My autumn centerpiece placed beautifully on the table.
5. Cool, fresh, filtered water.
6. A round, red apple.
7. Afternoon sunshine bathing shedding trees.
8. Books slanting on the shelf, missing books that my children have taken to read.
9. Clean, fresh laundry loaded into a basket, awaiting folding.
10. An adorable, over-grown kitten curled up on the futon.

 

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[Trust 30] Dare to be Bold

Dare to be bold by Matt Cheuvront

Our arts, our occupations, our marriages, our religion, we have not chosen, but society has chosen for us. We are parlour soldiers. We shun the rugged battle of fate, where strength is born. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Next to Resistance, rational thought is the artist or entrepreneurs worst enemy. Bad things happen when we employ rational thought, because rational thought comes from the ego. Instead, we want to work from the Self, that is, from instinct and intuition, from the unconscious.

A child has no trouble believing the unbelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. Its only you and I, with our big brains and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.” – Steven Pressfield, Do the Work

The idea of “being realistic” holds all of us back. From starting a business or quitting a job to dating someone who may not be our type or moving to a new place – getting “real” often means putting your dreams on hold.

Today, let’s take a step away from rational thought and dare to be bold. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to accomplish but have been afraid to pursue? Write it down. Also write down the obstacles in your way of reaching your goal. Finally, write down a tangible plan to overcome each obstacle.

The only thing left is to, you know, actually go make it happen. What are you waiting for?

I considered creating a video. Really, I couldn’t think of any bolder expression to make — I’m about the mousiest person you’d meet face-to-face. I kept trying to find the ideal location to film my video, but obstacles kept presenting themselves: a neighbor arriving home across the street; a neighborhood girl riding her bike down the street; my kids catching me sneaking to the side of the house and mistaking me for their cousin; a bumble bee smacking into the side of my head. And so I took the hint that I needed to write my response in order to actually make it happen. Such is life.

Let me repeat myself for the who-knows-how-many-eth time. I want to be an English consultant. I want the backyard, the couch, and my new favorite cafe (of which I’ve decided to is my not-so-best kept secret) to be my offices. I want to change lives by helping others write better. I’ve been so terrified of pursuing this dream because too many people have fooled me into believing that working a job outside the home is the only way to make a living without living in a cardboard box on the street corner. It’s that whole “starving artist” complex — but I’m not so much an artist. My writing may be an expression of art to me, but I’d rather focus on helping others. There are differences between “there,” “their,” and “they’re,” and not enough people seem to understand this. Just the other day, my son came home from school with a printed recipe book — and apparently one of his teachers forgot to spell check the title page before printing. It’s a “receipe” book. Really? And this is where I start to remember that people need me just as much as I need them.

As far as overcoming this obstacle — this fear — I feel confident that I’ve moved beyond it. Right now it’s a matter of creating content, offering my services, and marketing. I don’t exactly need anything else to propel my business forward. I simply need courage, confidence, and creativity.

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[Thankful Thursday] Multiple Ideas

Friday night I intended to go to bed early after writing my three pages. Of course, the three pages — which are usually meant to decompress — got my synapses firing with creative ideas. Simply by observing what others do with their own enterprises, I’ve realized that I can creatively maximize my time and expertise. (Sorry, details are under wraps for the time being.) Let’s just say the power of multiplication definitely intrigues me, and I grew much more confident in my ability to reach the goal of earning $45k by 2013 and $90k by 2014. Why do these numbers matter so much to me? First starters, I have a family to care for. If my business endeavors are to take center-stage in the bank account, then they need to replace the need for commuting to another boss. Secondly, I’m all about building a firm foundation in life, and you don’t get any firmer physical manifestation of a foundation than a house. I thrive when I can dig my roots into the ground, securely supporting myself through all seasons. I want to do what I love, but what I love needs to do for me as well. Building financial stability will only further enable me to focus on teaching others to use their words and language properly. So today I’m thankful that I’ve finally figured out the how: how am I going to make this a viable business venture? Simple! With a little thing called multiplication.

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[Monday Meditations] On Weight and Overall Health

First of all, let me state that the Mindful Mondays series is officially over. I realized a couple days ago that I don’t discuss mindfulness on Mondays anymore — I’m meditating upon a subject that resonates with me. So from now on, I will be writing Monday Meditations.

Last week I pulled out the tape measure to see if nearly four weeks of working a labor-intensive job had any positive results for my weight loss endeavors. Sadly, it hasn’t. I may not be home sitting on my backside, I may be sore most days from physically exerting myself, but I’m not seeing any results whatsoever. I found that to be rather depressing considering I hoped my arduous efforts would have given me an advantage. And thus my mind began to turn over all the possibilities — is it the quality of my food or perhaps an underlying health problem? Being that I’m uninsured and basically unable to pursue the health problems, I’m evaluating my diet. What am I eating? Do I notice any negative consequences after consuming certain foods? Could I be intolerant of a particular type of food? Is it really just excess stress causing cortisol to keep my weight in homeostasis? I will be exploring these questions during the coming months in order to mindfully care for my overall health and well-being.

Mindfully speaking, I know we’re entering a time of year in which weight loss efforts are impeded by seasonal baked goods and holidays devoted to eating — you might think it’s all about commercialism, but I anticipate the holidays for the large spreads that I’ve become accustomed to. That being said, it seems silly to wait, but I’ve decided that February and March I will give up gluten to see how my body reacts. Then I will have Easter to evaluate how my body tolerates gluten-containing products. In the interim, I can mentally prepare myself to give up bread, pasta, and baked goods.

I have also decided that I’ve been involved at my job long enough to begin an exercise plan at home again. My body has mostly adjusted to my job. I can add a new activity each week until I feel I’ve gotten back into the exercise routines I started earlier this year. I’m going to add yoga back first because it’s low impact and reduces stress. To be totally honest, I’m really feeling inspired by Jasmine’s quest for total health. I want to feel energized. I want to feel calm and peaceful. Starting with diet and exercise just makes so much sense to me.

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[Trust 30] One Thing

One Thing by Colin Wright

Do your work, and I shall know you. Do your work, and you shall reinforce yourself. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Take a moment, step back from your concerns, and focus on one thing: You have one life to achieve everything you’ve ever wanted. Sounds simple, but when you really focus on it, let it seep into your consciousness, you realize you only have about 100 years to get every single thing you’ve ever wanted to do. No second chances. This is your only shot. Suddenly, this means you should have started yesterday. No more waiting for permission or resources to start. Today is the day you make the rest of your life happen. Write down one thing you’ve always wanted to do and how you will achieve that goal. Don’t be afraid to be very specific in how you’ll achieve it: once you start achieving, your goals will get bigger and your capability to meet them will grow.

I haven’t always wanted to become an English consultant, but I did once dream of owning my own practice back in the days of my veterinary dreams. Regardless of the focus, the main goal was the same: to become my own boss. I’ve just about always dreaming of running my own business, although now the focus is to assist others with the English language and its grammar rules. Over the weekend I made strides to go forward with this dream. I’ve put the information out into the universe, and now I’m working on obtaining clients. For right now, the main goal is to get clients. Once I have an idea of demand, I can begin transitioning into a full-time I’m-the-boss role. During the transition, I will need to reach certain benchmarks that indicate my success and how close I am to fulfilling my dreams. The purpose of being my own boss is to ensure work-life balance is achieved — to ensure I’m home with my family when I need to be, getting the proper exercise, eating and drinking healthfully, and maximizing my expertise.

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[Trust 30] Facing (and Fearing)

Facing (and Fearing) by Dan Andrews

Greatness appeals to the future. If I can be firm enough to-day to do right, and scorn eyes, I must have done so much right before as to defend me now. Be it how it will, do right now. Always scorn appearances, and you always may. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Trusting intuition and making decisions based on it is the most important activity of the creative artist and entrepreneur. If you are facing (and fearing) a difficult life decision, ask yourself these three questions:

1) “What are the costs of inaction?” I find it can be helpful to fight fear with fear. Fears of acting are easily and immediately articulated by our “lizard brains” (thanks Seth) e.g. what if I fail? what if I look stupid? If you systematically and clearly list the main costs of inaction, they will generally overshadow your immediate fears.

2) “What kind of person do I want to be?” I’ve found this question to be extremely useful. I admire people who act bravely and decisively. I know the only way to join their ranks is to face decisions that scare me. By seeing my actions as a path to becoming something I admire, I am more likely to act and make the tough calls.

3) “In the event of failure, could I generate an alterative positive outcome?” Imagine yourself failing to an extreme. What could you learn or do in that situation to make it a positive experience? We are generally so committed to the results we seek at the outset of a task or project that we forget about all the incredible value and experience that comes from engaging the world proactively, learning, and improving our circumstances as we go along.

1. The costs of inaction are:

  • spending my days working for someone else on their terms
  • spending at least 40 hours away from my family and my home
  • never realizing my dream of becoming a published author
  • never realizing my dream of working for myself
  • wasting the best years of my life, only to retire when I’m too old to enjoy myself

2. I want to be a loving wife and mother. I want to change and touch lives by helping others use their words to the best of their abilities. I want to achieve that zen-like quality that some of my favorite people seem to exude so easily.

3. To be totally honest, I’m not sure at this juncture. I do realize that it was my barrier to affordable tutoring that prevented me from becoming a veterinarian, and at the time I was so paralyzed by the fear of failure and the lack of backup planning that I couldn’t imagine what else to do with my career. I took a career class to help me determine what else I could and would like to do with my life and discovered that I was “suited” to become a technical writer. I latched onto the idea of becoming a writer and pursued a degree in English. After graduating, I’ve mostly worked in an administrative capacity, so I know I’ll always have that backup plan waiting for me. However, I know I can learn a lot from my students and clients, and I’m very open to their stories and experiences. I know I have an advocate in me, and I’m sure I could potentially do something related to advocacy — and I’m sure I could do that for myself, as in being my own boss.

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